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How consciously to get married?

Often women generously watered their husbands mud, their shortcomings are surprised, offended by their actions - and there is a feeling that before you angel of light, next to which it is not clear how he found himself a tyrant and a despot, who torments him.This article - the answer to all the "angels", offended on destiny in the face of her husband.

What we are amazing beings - women, do not you?First we nosimsya in search of his half, then - finding it, we are rubbing their hands with glee, we try on a wedding dress, admiring stamp in the passport, and a year-two-three-four-five family life already hard to complain about a friend "strangerthat suddenly formed around us, and which does not give flowers, does not work, does not understand "... and a whole slew of" no ".

And the question arises - "if it is so bad where you looked before her marriage?Why did you marry him? ", To which the woman, of course, corresponds to the" it was very different. "

Alas, this is just an illusion, which is very pain

ful broken when removed from the eyes of rose-colored glasses. man he had been, and remained so.Just married woman not for a real person, but for the perfect image, which itself came up, and she fell in love.

How consciously to get married?

And what do you do next?Search for a new man?Or modify it?

The answer lies not in the man, not in his behavior, and knowledge. true knowledge about family relationships, without which it is impossible to create something.

What you need to know when getting married?


No matter how we try, we can not draw into your life the man who better than us to their spiritual qualities.We get our exact reflection.

What does it mean?

  • What if we are filled with selfishness, next will be as selfish.
  • If we have low self-esteem, the next will be a tyrant and a despot who will go all out to insult us.
  • If we want to command, we get into a pair of passive man.
  • If a woman has a cold heart, and she did not know how to love, her husband will run away from the family - in alcohol, work, computer games, to his mistress.Etc.

why it just does not happen to an angel appeared near the demon.It just means that our only outwardly pretends to be an angel, "white and fluffy", and inside is full of claims and aggression towards self and others.

Everything that is inside the woman, in her mind, everything that is not visible outside view, will be showcasing her husband - their appearance, their behavior, their relationships to other people.

What you need to know when getting married?

HUSBAND God gives us!

He can not win the lottery, your meeting can not be programmed, enchant, a man can not get just because you wanted to.

Each pair meets the will of God, and this means meeting will take place only when God wants it, and when it will be ready for both partners.

pointless to look at every turn in the hope that there you will find your destiny. is important to prepare for marriage.

In which case, the woman receives her husband?

  1. If it is filled with love .When a woman is enough for a family of love when she thinks about how to give warmth of his heart to another man, and she lives just that - a light to others, share their love, dreams of a family and children, studies on the necessary knowledgehow to become a good wife, she will necessarily be fans.Men flock flocks on the ability of women to love.Such a woman is able to attract a good man and create a harmonious family, if you do not rest on its laurels.
  2. If she has a serious problem that it can be solved only in a pair of , it attracts a man who will help her better and see their problem, next to which it will occur best.This so-called karmic marriages in which there are many conflicts and problems.If the spouses overcome them, and do not destroy the relationship, they get a chance for future relations (with each other or with another partner).

In which case, the woman receives her husband?

How does it look?

example, a woman can not stand alcoholics.Her father drank, and she absorbed the hatred of him, along with his mother's milk.Naturally, her husband would drink.And if it will be able to treat it with love, if it will take those lessons and snaps into hatred for her husband, who then give to your children, husband or stop drinking or she will meet another man, more worthy.

Or another example - a woman needs to go through the experience of single mothers, to work out their past deeds.In this case, it will attract into your life the man who simply can not live with her after the birth of a child and leave the family.Can a woman to forgive him and not to blame for their troubles - get a chance to start a family.It will begin to pour dirt, take blame for everything - all life will bear the cross alone, or again to repeat the same scenario with all the other men.

mistake many women - to look for problems in her husband , which enters dishonestly.This is a dead end.You can change dozens of men, but if a woman does not change inside, will not change the source of the problem, it is again and again will be confronted with scoundrels and traitors.

their problems in the family, we bring with us, and seek to correct them, and we need in his character, not carefully removing the straw from the eyes of a partner.

Changes in women leads to changes in the man

partners in the family are like communicating vessels - all the changes that take place in one of them, necessarily affect the other. If we change if we improve your character, if we make efforts to itself, we will see that your partner is also changing .Changing one involve changes in others!

If our mindset "change you first, and then me.Maybe ... ", we will meet the same selfishness, and the other - he would wait for us to change.

Changes in women leads to changes in the male

All this applies equally to men. When we change, when our heart is overflowing with love, the world around us is transformed into an oasis of peace and goodness!

Finally good parable topic:

Parable of coffee

comes to the Father and young daughter says:

- Father, I'm tired, I have such a hard life, these difficulties and challenges, I always swim against the current,I have no more strength.What should I do?

Father instead of the answer set on fire three identical pots with water.One threw a carrot, an egg laid in the other, and the third poured coffee.After a while he pulled out of the water the carrots and egg, and then poured into a cup of coffee from the third pan.

- What has changed?- He asked his daughter.

- Egg and carrots to cook, and the coffee dissolved in water, - she said.

- No, my daughter, this is only a superficial view of things.Look - a firm carrots, visited the boiling water, become soft and supple.Brittle and liquid egg was hard.Outwardly, they have not changed, they only changed their structure under the influence of the same adversity - boiling water.And people - strong external pasted may become weak and where fragile and tender only harden and become stronger.

- And coffee?- I asked the daughter.

- Oh!This is the fun part!Coffee is completely dissolved in the new hostile environment and changed it - turned into a magnificent flavored drink.There are special people who do not change under the influence of circumstances - they change the very circumstances and turn them into something new and beautiful, and gaining knowledge of the most difficult situation.

wish all these necessary changes, which offers us a destiny.Then we become internally stronger, wiser, with updated values ​​in life, if we are open to all the changes in life, and to perceive all events from the positive side.After all the difficulties and problems are given to us for our development and progress!

All the best!

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