There is nothing stronger than a mother's love and there is nothing more terrible conflict between mother and daughter.This is a very serious issue, and do not want to hurt someone's feelings.Relations between them are different.Let's look at how to behave with her daughter, to make everyone happy?
most correct in my opinion the relationship is when the mother and daughter two friends, the daughter can do everything most sacred trust of her mother and the mother will understand and support, and where it is possible and give advice, because his motherI have life experience and wisdom, which lacks a daughter.In these respects, there is love and understanding.After all, it's nice when my daughter can be herself and share the most intimate, and my mother, in turn, can understand and accept her point of view without hurting her feelings openly and do not impose their views on life.The main thing is that his mother gives the girl to grow without stepping on her personal liberty, giving her the
But in real life?
But there are other relationships between the closest people, I like to call them wrong.Improper relationship with her daughter build those mothers who do not want to work on his personality, for whatever reasons, have little maternal instinct, or lack the ability to love.
most difficult thing in this relationship, is when the mother does not want to let my daughter on my own, considering it as their own.Let's face it.For example, the biological mother is the beginning and the social father.Women given the right to give birth, nurture and give love to your child, and the father is obliged to support his family in the material sense, but what happens when the mother has not developed personal life?Here then comes the complexity of the relationship, and it is that the daughter resembles the hated husband - a scoundrel, and all the places of accumulation in the soul of the mountain mother pours her daughter, which in turn can not understand what is happening, why the mother has become atyrant.As long as a small child, we have to obey and adapt to the home of terror and when the daughter grows up, or it runs off into the wide world, far away from home (to live with a man, to study in another city, etc.), or starts to fight back their parentand there is a scandal in the family.Then this daughter will be very difficult to build relationships with men because she will subconsciously hate them, can not trust them, because her mother since childhood, she is inspired.And as a result, may return back to live with my mother (doomed).Mom will be happy no matter how strange.
Or maybe the other way around, my daughter would go to live far away and never come back.Or run away in men who do not love, just for the fact that to be away from my mother.Or worse yet, subconsciously will choose the same tyrants, and marry a man resembling her mother, who loves scandals.And it will continue to suffer until the end of life, until it learns to defend himself.
Hence the conclusion that your child is happy - Sroyte his personal life.These are your sacrifices (for the sake of the child supposedly) are not wanted.Because your personal insults at the men and disappointments, you deprive a child an example of relations between a man and a woman.Example of love.And then, it is expected that the child will thank you for what you give him dedicate his life?No.The child you do not owe.And he does not need your sacrifices, for example victims you build his relationship with the world, namely, the sense of sacrifice, with whom the child will live the rest of his life.
And yet there is a mother too much takes care of her daughter and her daughter when it would be necessary for a good fly out of the house, get married to have children Yes, the mother begins to manipulate using his illness and tied his child to him.How is it that I - a mother and everything.What kind of love you can speak.Ego mother ruled in such a relationship, just an animal instinct.After the daughter is considered as property.These mothers are afraid of loneliness, because their whole life, rather than build their child was given, and if the daughter goes, the emptiness.So we get year-old mother, proudly lying on the bed and a sixty-year daughter, the old maid, who serve at his mother.Dear Mom release their daughters, let them fly, because you demand love from the children do not have love, does not require anything in return.The children themselves will show you care about when the time comes.In gratitude for your love and care.Just know the golden mean;)
There is a saying in the east - the child is a guest in your home.And the wise men in the east.I wish you wisdom, happiness, love.
Lovely Mom release their daughters, let them fly, because you demand love from the children do not have love, does not require anything in return.The children themselves will show you care about when the time comes.In gratitude for your love and care.Just know the golden mean;)
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