psychologist coach, head of the international educational project "Psychology of the third millennium," says Oleg Gadetsky about natural male and female qualities and that is why a man should not live only in the interests of the family.
Male and female nature
Today, many young men are showing a teenager - prefer to sit on the Internet, watch movies, hang out.This feature of our time?
Oleg Gadetsky: Yes, it is characteristic of our time.Women learn masculinity, men - women.Women want to be independent, and when a woman has an independent nature, she mutilates man.Next to a woman he does not develop, but is still a boy.Child - this means irresponsibility.
If a woman is independent, if she does not expect the guidance and help of men, it will break him. Man is by nature a leader, he needed someone for whom he cared.And that woman posing order for a man to be a man.
Today, many mothers in their relationship with their husbands do not show the real nature of women, and this example adversely af
But the man also destroys a woman. If a man cares about a woman protects her, gives protection, attentive to her feelings, she is ready to put aside all their independence. Due to the fact that most modern men do not possess these qualities, there is a tendency for women to be independent.When a man builds a relationship with his wife, he sets an example and daughter and son.Therefore, and grow such independent girls and boys such irresponsible.
How to change this? Every young man and each woman should not think about how to change the other, and how to change himself.First you have to become a real quality for yourself, then I can help others become true. Some one must take full responsibility for themselves , no matter who it is: a woman or a man.
What are the male and female qualities are present?
Oleg Gadetsky : Men: leadership, protection, the ability to think about the welfare of another, to sacrifice, to care.This is one moment.
second point - it is a social mission. man should not live only in the interests of the family, it is his nature.He should be unselfish significant thing for the benefit of others.
For a woman, it is important, first of all chaste. When a woman is correct, it gives the defense a man and inspires his .
Men's nature - a dynamic, explosive, has a lot of sharp edges.Women's nature of its balance, so it inherent qualities such as tolerance, gentleness, caution, care, sensitivity.It is also the ability to experience emotion and feel attitude.Now the woman's nature is often understood as a sexual nature.
feminine nature - nature is not sexual, and maternal. sexual nature destroys, maternal causes in harmony.Naturally, the woman should be attractive, sexy nature should occur, but not to be dominant.Purpose of women - the beauty of decorating the world, and above all, the beauty of the heart, reflected in the shining eyes of love!
Why man, having succeeded, away from his wife?
Oleg Gadetsky : This is due to the irresponsibility and selfishness."I have achieved in my life career, money I can afford everything I want" - when a man thinks so, it means that he wants to enjoy and exploit others.
He can not be happy, because the law of man's nature - it is the law of liability protection.He is to have fun, relax the mind, but fully meet the deep will not.However, if it does not change in this new relationship.If, however, it will retain the paradigm of the selfish man, he will never be happy, it is absolutely accurate.
And the woman?As you know, both sides are to blame ... When there is a conflict and the collapse of relationships, there is always the fault of both.There are two mistakes universal woman.The first - carelessness in a relationship, she thought only of the children and the household, as her husband had forgotten as a man. For a man it is important that the woman he was attracted .Women's nature - creative, intriguing, mysterious. woman should be a woman in the lifelong , not just 25 years old when she chooses a partner.
Another error - independence, what we talked about.When a woman acts independently in a relationship, the man appears spontaneous desire to move away from her, because he can not be realized with it like a man.He has to patronize.If a woman does not give him this role consciously, she had unconsciously alienated from himself and lays the possibility of another, which will give him the taste of life, the taste of relations.
can a person take in one area and does not carry to the other?
Oleg Gadetsky : There are so-called karmic task.Someone in her relationships, so people will not be successful in relationships and he will have to make an effort to change the situation.At the same time it can be quite successful in the field of money, career, health.
possible that success in one area, the other - defeat.But it is important to understand that full satisfaction from life occurs when a person is successful in all areas of life .If I have a constant psychological difficulties in a relationship, how can I experience the happiness from work?Inside of me will always live any unrealized functions unpleasant emotions.You have to be whole person.
In everyday terms - is the health, relationships, prosperity, career.If you take a scientific approach, it is necessary to highlight the physical and socio-emotional sphere.The first deals with health and our capabilities in the outside world, it is true prosperity, the second - a sphere of relations.They include family, children, career, this area is connected with my perception of others and their perception of me.
even more delicate sphere - intellectual, associated with the mind, ideology.Realizovanna in this area mean that a person has gained wisdom, meaningful lives deeply.
And finally, fourth, most important area of our life - the spiritual. It is related to the disclosure of energy of love in our hearts - as far as I can unselfishly care for others and make selfless love of others.This is the realization of the person on a soul level.It is associated with subtle spiritual skills - how much a person has the feeling that he lives under the senior management.
important to understand that life - it is a science, and it has strict laws .And if we do not know these laws, it made a lot of mistakes and not us find what are looking for - a real satisfaction in life, real happiness.We will not achieve this success, we will not take place as an integral harmonious personality.It is necessary to study the science of life, as well as the need to communicate with someone who has experience in this science realizovanna.These in-depth knowledge has always come from the individual, not from books.
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