Undoubtedly, there are also cases where the jealousy is justified.But sometimes you start to realize what kind of a reason for jealousy and was not, and there was a dispute.As win a rampant jealousy?How to learn not to be jealous?
reasons of jealousy, or why we are jealous?
- Most often, practically in most cases, are beginning to be jealous because they do not believe in yourself.In humans, low self-esteem, and it seems that it is much worse than other people.He does not like to own appearance, it seems that the other successful, smarter and more fun.Read more about the causes of low self-esteem of women - in the article Low self-esteem of women - heart to heart conversation.
- Sometimes it happens that cause of jealousy may be the last bad experience. And he even can not happen to you and your girlfriend, mom, sister, or classmate.But you, unconsciously, will assume that this situation could be repeated with you.
- Jealousy may be motivated by distrust of the loved one and misunderstanding in
- Another reason for jealousy - a sense of ownership.Do you think that a person belongs to you and only you.And does not consider such an option, that man - he was by himself, and he belongs only to himself.
- If you are jealous, it does not mean that you love.Primarily, this means that you afraid to lose that person.
- And one reason there is jealousy - a large exposure to the influence of stereotypes.For example, one of them - all men cheat.Not all!Much depends on the woman, which is next door.
learn not to be jealous
- Learn trusted loved one.Start with the fact that his release on a fishing trip with friends, and give yourself a vow not to call him every half hour, listening intensely, trying to catch the female voices (learn to trust a loved one to help councils of confidence in the article: how to achieve and maintain).
- Nurture confidence. arrange a Motivational on the theme: "I am the most intelligent, beautiful and unique!" Read relevant books on the topic of parenting confidence.A lot of interesting things you can find in the article Love for yourself: how to improve self-esteem.
- Try just love a man who is beside you.You do not need to own undivided his thoughts and feelings.Respect the right to freedom of another person.
- rid of the fear that you can losing a loved one. Yes, if it will happen - it will be scary and painful.But!The world will not stop, will not stop the life, and you will be able to exist without it.Imagine what you would do if you lost the person?What would you do, how I would pass your day?When you draw a clear picture in your mind, your fear will disappear.And you'll just enjoy love without jealousy.
- Sit down with yourself and try to understand the reasons his jealousy .When you stay alone with yourself, you will not be ashamed to answer any questions.Carefully re-read the beginning of this article to determine the cause of your jealousy.To know the reasons, you will be able to draw up a rough plan for how to further deal with jealousy.
- from time to time remind yourself that jealousy - the lot of weak people.And you do not want to be considered a weak person?
- Try to spend more time with their loved one.Highlight on walks together, at least a couple of nights a week.When you are together with your loved ones, you do not need to be jealous, because you are near.And then you feel how beautiful it is when you're not jealous.
- Try to pay more attention to your man.You know what his hobbies?You know that he is interested in?And did you try, at least once, to combine your hobbies or devote an entire evening of his passion?Think at your leisure on these issues and read the article How to strengthen the relationship.
- If you are reading this article, chances are you already plagued by jealousy not only a loved one, but also herself.Stop worry, scandals, to find fault.It is best to talk one time with a loved one.Explain to him the whole situation, tell us about the causes of your jealousy, explain that you are gnawing.When you stop to attack the loved one, and will present jealousy as his own problem, it is possible that you will come together to solve this problem.
- Understand for themselves once and for all, that has never happened such that zeal contributed to the strengthening of relations.Unfortunately, often the opposite happens.In most cases, jealousy destroys even the strongest relationship. A jealous after parting not want to admit that he was the cause of this gap.Now he believes that being jealous, was right.
- When you limit the freedom of a loved one, nothing but this is not a protest.Think of yourself and your friends in childhood.Those children who were not allowed to leave the yard of the house, wanted to go to another yard, a distant store and other places.And for those children who are allowed to leave the court, often do not want to go anywhere, because it is far and reluctance.The bottom line is that the more you clamp a loved one in the grip of jealousy, the more the fervor and zeal he will seek to get out of there.
- Finally, you asked yourself if the person you suspect is cheating on you, why he is still with you ?Why did he tolerate your criticisms and your jealousy?Probably because he genuinely loves you and hopes that you will, in time, to reason!
Before jealousy again take you to their steel vice, think that if cause for jealousy not - jealous, at least, stupid.And if the occasion is still there, it is, unfortunately, too late!
wish you happiness and mutual love without jealousy!
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