Modern people tend to forget about traditions and customs, prevailing even in ancient times.Yet, some of them settled down.Of course, they have undergone changes in connection with the passage of time.However, much remains unchanged.One of these "survivors" is a courtship ritual.But how many know how to hold it properly ...
Matchmaking bride in Russia
At its core is a matchmaking acquaintance with the parents of the groom potential future wife.This process also included a discussion of the earlier and the conditions and intentions of marriage.We need to know (or at least suspect) that the man - a timid and shy people.Because of this fact, the stronger sex was not thrilled to go on such an important event alone.
Therefore there was a tradition to send more and relatives (senior men) for the company.Matchmakers came into the house as if by chance, but the bride's family did subtle hints on the purpose of their arrival.Of course, the host country, all these jokes, rhymes perfectly understood and tri
Shroud in Russia was considered the best time to perform this ritual.It was not advisable to embark on a journey on Wednesdays, Fridays and thirteenth (they say unfavorable time for the wedding of trouble).There was a belief that the path to the bride the matchmakers were not supposed to talk to anyone, so protect them from the evil eye the bride and groom.
Not every courtship ended successfully.When the bride had a large dowry and attractive appearance, to visit her family had two or even three times.Most often this is not scared matchmakers.Sometimes the bride's family could unexpectedly to visit the groom's house to assess what the two men offered to their daughter.If the nominee was soon approved, representatives from both sides were certainly sit down together at the table.We ate at the same time the loaf that have brought the two men, or owners of the house guests were treated to a specially baked cake.At such feasts and prescribed date engagement and wedding .
How to woo a bride in our time?
modern courtship, of course, very different from the traditions of the past.It lost its "surprise effect" and is rather practical.Today, the groom takes the initiative, initially offering the girl a hand and heart, and to give consent or refusal.If he agreed to a specific time visiting the house of the bride.The girl and her parents are ready to receive a dear guest, set the table, cook meals and put on the table alcohol.
Bridegroom, in turn, also need not to fall face in the dirt and appeared in the bride's home not empty-handed.Particularly welcome the presence of chocolates, box of chocolates, a bottle of good wine and, of course, flowers for the bride and mother of the beloved.
This modern matchmaking process does not stop.After the bridegroom visited the bride's house, she must pay a return visit.The girls also do not forget about small presents parents loved.Flowers for mom and a bottle of high-quality alcoholic beverages for Dad - perfect.If your parents live far away, do not forget to send them a photo with your happy smiles that are sure to delight them.
After the talks can be submitted to the registrar.Then, parents should arrange a meeting.This is necessary not only to become more familiar.You all have to solve organizational issues associated with the wedding.
After this "meeting" young people can safely say about the engagement.On this celebration usually invite relatives and close friends.Bride makes a proposal and gives the bride a ring that the bride should wear to the wedding.
Some rules for the groom when the bride courtship
- Bouquet expensive need to buy for the future mother-in-little easier - for the bride.
- your appearance should be much better than usual.This visit should be prepared very carefully.
- Do not give too expensive gifts!You also do not want to pass a sycophant.
- When the conversation with his father is better to refuse from excessive use of alcohol.
- Do not show the potential negative aspects of their relatives.In the end, of this meeting depends on your future life.
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Though this ceremony and took household stain, do not neglect them.Any parent will be pleased to know that his opinion is that he is respected.Behave naturally without exposing their flaws, and success is guaranteed!