believed that man must always be the leader, and thus pursue your favorite girl, for example, to prove in a fight with a rival that he is better.Mom always told us since childhood that force man in his character and the first role in the relationship has always belonged to him, so she has to humbly wait on his actions and only then make tentative steps forward.
During courtship the young man should provide courtesies to fulfill the whims of his princess, in general, to do whatever he wants young lady.And at any time, it can assumed a disgruntled mine and say that if he does not do what she wants, she will go to another more caring gentleman.Discrimination is any, is not it?
These beliefs actually came to us from past centuries, when the girls were really the weaker sex and waited for the real knights, but whether they are suitable to modern times and independent ladies?Let's understand why there is a belief if a man does not fight for the girl, so do not like.
How effective is this psychology?
Surely you are successful and self-confident woman, but as soon as you hear the phrase: « if a man is not seeking the girl - he does not like it », then just throw up your hands and you can not argue against anything.And you even define what it means to seek Woman phrase?Can you imagine a picture of how he aggressively cracked down with all the fans, proving that he is the strongest male or throws your staircase million red roses, but you forget that your man is not a professional boxer, and his salary is notIt allows you to buy expensive gifts.
Or a real-life example, you argue with loved ones, and by mutual initiative and you are separate.You sit and wait for him reconciling step, not because he is more to blame, and why?Because he is a man and you all around the second, that he should pursue you.Only you forget that men also have the pride (and sometimes even in larger quantities than we) through which they do not like to cross.Or do you want a man-rag, which will run to you on the first call, like a dog?You better define.
And here you sit waiting when he will be reconciled, and he does not come and you think that if he does not fight for your love, then you do not need a man.And you are allowed to go to find another man, but it turns out that the following nothing surpass your ex because ideals do not happen.And indeed we have fewer men can not just throw them so, if you ever mend his obstacles and require initiative, he will find another with which it will be more comfortable.So believe me, just such a psychology is ineffective in the 21st century!You have to understand that relations are always two people, and if you yourself are not going to put anything in the construction of your house relations, whatever the strong man, your house will collapse under the weight of any obstacles.
When you truly love, you will be pleased to try to make a loved one and not wait for when they seek only to you.But if my words you are still not convinced, and you're still going to wait for the initiative from the man sitting on the couch, then I wish you good luck ... and patience for the next few years at least!
Put yourself in the shoes men
And you did not think about why all this is happening?Women are very long fought for independence, achieved equality, but now that equality has come, we are once again something is not satisfied.And let's now look at it from the man.
Since the birth of a man heap of responsibilities: to protect his mother and sister, then seek his girlfriend, earn a lot of money to build a house, raise a son, the list is endless.That we can be the weaker sex in the case of failure hide in a corner and cry, and for men it's a shame.No, I do not want to release the man from his duties and put it on a par with the woman.Not at all, I just want you to be introduced that men sometimes have a very hard time in this world, and here you are to him, to seek me, and that's it, and I'll see how you do it.
But once we have advocated the equality of male and female, the gun men can now be a little not so decisive and not always the first to take the initiative.This is not demeaning, write the first man to invite a date to make a compliment, first kiss or the first to go to conciliation.
Yes, nice to see, when a man pays attention to you, cares about you and express their feelings.But if he does not come as you want it, it does not give you the right to claim that he does not love you and will do nothing for the relationship.This position is very selfish.Man in fact doing something, trying to please you (albeit rare, but tries), and you only the allegations because he had lost all desire to do something.
If you have something does not suit, sit down and calmly talk to him, not an ultimatum, tell him you want a little more attention, for sure he will understand and hear.Well, if even after such a conversation will not change his attitude, then you will either accept it for what it is, or find a new man, because the adult is difficult to change.And do not forget sometimes to give a loved one, it is sure to appreciate.
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